#mamamonday "Now Saint is a ghost. He and I can now love equally. He knows the things I have been hiding all these years. Now I must tell my daughter everything. That she is a daughter of a ghost. She has no chi. No balance. This is my greatest shame. How can one leave this world without leaving her their spirit?" I worry about this day often. The day I have to tell my daughter the truth about her biological father. I have to deliver the pain of the details and then help her let go of any anger those details may bring, like they once brought me. I hope that on that day, her tiger spirit will stand strong and not crumble under the weight of a man's foul selfish choices...and if it does, I will hold her and I will fight for her, and even fight her herself until she remembers there is a tiger inside her and that he played no part in the strength of that spirit.
I think if you are honest with your reasons she will understand. Her first year was hard and he wasn't doing what was healthy for her so you fought to do what was best for her and always have. A lot of kids can and do understand that. At least he wasn't part of her life then bailed and left her confused and hurt.
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